We were driving around Saturday looking for garage sales and telling the boys that Beautiful and I would be heading to Nebraska this weekend without them to go to Beautiful’s grandpa’s funeral. Primo wanted to know why he wasn’t going and we told him that he was going to stay with Grandma and Papa and that the funeral wasn’t a kid thing, it was for grown ups. Then the tough questions started coming.
“Why did grandpa Gary Die?”
“Where do people go when they die?”
“Does God put them in Jail?”
I was driving and Beautiful was in back with the boys so the questions were directed at her and I was happy to not be the one answering these type of questions for once. It was about time she was on the front line of pre-school curiosity, so I just smiled in the mirror with a look of, tell us honey. Beautiful did the classic buy some time question of “Well primo, were do you think people go when they die?” He said that God put them in Jail. Not sure what Sunday school lesson that was from but Beautiful asked why God would do that. Primo wasn’t really interested in answering that and wanted to know what mom thought. She said she thought people went to heaven when they died and Primo agreed.
These tough questions are coming more often now and reading how other dads like Jack B handle these types of situations is really helpful. If you haven’t read it yet check out his post Why Do They Want To Kill Us? where he answers the question from his nine year old son while waiting in line at the Israel Independence Day Festival. He talks of not wanting to shred pieces of his sons childhood in answering these questions and so far we haven’t come up against that but I am mindful of it. I guess that is part of childhood though, coming up against these real life situations and needing to find answers and a context for it.