When it’s not raining, and even sometimes when it is, we like to walk over to the park near our house. The swings, the slide, the possibility of other kids, and the view of the train yard make for an irresistible trip for both me and the boys. There is a lot to look forward to at the park and that makes for a strong motivator of good behavior. I can get the kids to clean up messes or get their shoes on by themselves by dangling the carrot of monkey bars and teeter tooters. Once we are suited and booted and making our way down the block I get a bit inpatient with the boys for lagging behind or stopping to pick up a stick. It becomes an effort to keep the three boys focused on the fun they are going to have if they would just concentrate on getting there.
Lately Beautiful and I have been excitedly making plans for the future. A future that will include a fulfilling job, more money, and various other ideals we can come up with. It will be magical time for us once we can get there but right now the way there seems hard to find. The path is frustrating with too many roadblocks and rabbit trails for our liking. We are motivated by that future but it seems like we aren’t going to get there anytime soon.
The other day after getting the boys ready and out the door to the park they got distracted by stick that was stuck in a crack in the sidewalk. I told them to leave the stick and hurry, we need to get to the park but then I realized I was being ridiculous. The park was great and all but the boys were having just as much fun on the walk there. I decided to slow down and walk with them, splashing in puddles and poking bugs with sticks. We still made it to the park and had a great time but for once I didn’t pass over the walk there thinking about the ends.
I want to be more like that in all areas of my life. We have this future plan that we are looking forward to but I want to make sure I am not missing the magic in the walk there.
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