It’s the high pierced scream and cry that brings the whole thing to my attention. Primo has taken something from Segundo, or hit him, or done some other thing that has made him cry out in mock agony. My immediate reaction is to ask Primo what he did. To tell him to give that car back, apologize, or in some other way make amends. I react to what I see or think I see but that isn’t very reliable.
I have watched and played enough organized basketball to know that it is often the second foul or action that gets the refs notice. Player one pushes, player two pushes back and the ref gives the foul to player two. Segundo is like a young Dennis Rodman getting under Primo’s skin and getting him in trouble. For the most part any crying from Segundo is because Primo has reacted to something that he has done to him. I ask Primo what happened but he only tells me what he did, he’ll learn to shift blame soon enough. Really when Segundo starts crying I should immediately give him the foul but I have taken to calling the offsetting fouls with no free throws and separating the two.
Sometimes that isn’t enough. Sometimes Hockey is a better sport to go with. Sometimes one or both needs to hit the penalty box, five for fighting. Like in hockey I have taken to letting them fight for a bit before I get in and put them in the penalty box. Once one of them hits the ground the fight is over, but until then anything goes. You would think that Primo being bigger would be an advantage and it is, but Segundo will grab himself a handful of hair and gets his moneys worth. Basketball and Hockey, that is where I get most of my parenting ideas. What’s that you say, it’s the playoffs for both the NBA and NHL, I had no idea.