Guest Post: On being engaged

Today we have a guest post from a young dad whose blog I am really enjoying. The blog is The Daddy Yo Blog and it is written by John T. His openness and unique voice make for some great reads. I asked him to write a guest post for me and he came through right away with this gem below, I hope you enjoy and be sure to click over to his blog to read more.

“I’m Engaged! (but I’m already married!) Intrigued? I bet you are. Yes I am already married to the most wonderful woman in the world, but I am engaged again too! How? Glad you asked! I’m engaged with my kids. Not too them, obviously, but with them. I have been a dad now for 3 years and I have to say it has been a wonderful 3 years. Good times, bad times, sleepless nights and long mid-day naps. I have loved every minute of it! But I have to say, somewhat shamefully, I have not always been as involved with my kiddos as I am now.

The transformation happened over time and has been a great transformation, not just for me, but for my children too. They need their daddy, not just to change diapers (though I can change non poop diapers for both of them in under 2 minutes) and feed them, but to be there to be a friend, a playmate, a guider and teacher. And I need them, to be playmates, to teach me what it is like to be young and carefree again, and to show me why it is I do what I do, and who I do everything for. It has been a great pleasure to meet so many dads through social media and through the blogosphere and to talk with so many who believe that being engaged and involved with their children is the only way to be with them, and we enjoy every minute of it.

And I encourage all dads to become more and more involved with their children. I find myself wishing I had been more involved with both of my children when they were younger, especially my son having been the first born, but I know now, that the past doesn’t matter. I have my children NOW, and NOW is the time for me to be involved. There is no time like the present and no better time to enjoy the life I have, and my life is my family.

  5 comments for “Guest Post: On being engaged

  1. 07/15/2010 at 11:54 am

    Encouraging advice, it is true that we can only control moving forward. Thanks for the reminder

  2. 07/15/2010 at 2:13 pm

    Great post and it is so true. As a kid my father was not engaged. He was around, but the memories I have as a child unfortunately don’t include him since he was always working. I don’t fault him for this, but I have made it my mission to make sure my kids do not feel that way 20 years from now. Thanks for your post.

  3. 07/15/2010 at 7:43 pm

    Thanks again James for asking me to post for you. The idea for the post came to me while I was talking to my boss at work about our children and how quick time flies by. We cannot change or slow down time, just speed up our reaction to it. He is a smart man, my boss.
    DaddyYoEffinRox´s last blog post ..Guest Post from Kevin Metzger- The DADvocate Project

  4. 07/15/2010 at 8:26 pm

    WOW! I need to reevaluate and take note to this post. Thanks so much for writing it and also congrats on the guest post!

    I really liked when you wrote “to teach me what it is like to be young and carefree again”. That is SO true and I’ve been trying to get to that point with my 2 kids (B-5 and G-4). It’s so obvious that they love me and really enjoy when I engage with them in playtime, rather than just letting them play alone or with themselves (of course, they do need that time!)

    It’s hard with both parents working, kids in pre-k and summer camp, then home by 6pm, dinner, playtime, baths and bed. We NEVER shutdown the 100MPH speed we’re going and it drives me nuts!! I just want time to chill and relax and sometimes don’t give enough Daddy time to the kids! Last night and tonight were different and now reading this post I want to make a change. I enjoyed playing and being silly with my son tonight!

    thanks man!!

  5. 07/16/2010 at 6:40 am

    Amen to that DaddyYo. Kudos to you for getting more involved and being such a presense (sp?) in your kids lives
    Seattledad (Luke, I am Your Father)´s last blog post ..Waiting for Star Bucs in Seattle

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