Now that we no longer live with The Charge’s parents I am really watching this kid and not just having him hang around us while his mom works upstairs. There isn’t any real difference semantically but some how this feels a lot different to me. His dad drops him off early in the morning, usually while my boys are eating breakfast, and his mom picks him up after she is off at noon. In between we explore the space of the new house and get out on the bike to check out the local parks and I play the role of day care. I like that role, the role of nanny. Now that we aren’t living together it seems like a different arrangement and more formal.
Now I feel like I need to be doing more to get him and Segundo ready for pre-school. Since I am not just hanging out with him at the house I feel like I need to justify our day to his parents when they come. “We learned about the letter K, counted to 12, and discussed doubling the high post to beat a soft zone.” Again I don’t think much changes from his parents stand point. They don’t expect me to send him home with seasonal art projects and pamphlets on head lice, so the change is more internal. Looking after another kid, one that is not yours, helps bring certain parental decisions to light. If I am wanting to do this more with The Charge why am I not doing it with Segundo. He’s less than a year away from pre-school too so he needs to get cracking on his multiplication tables so he can keep up with the other baby einsteins.
So we are incorporating more songs and pointing out the letters we have learned. I write their names on top of the art projects and have them pick it out so that they all have one trick they can show their moms. We only have two more weeks left with The Charge before he stays home with his mom and new baby brother so I need to pick up the pace. Make sure that his time with us really does benefit him in the future. Honestly I don’t think there is anything I can try to do that would make that more true. The time that these three kids have spent together is invaluable and they have all benefited from being together. I just need him to learn a few more tricks for my living resume.