I can see it happening already and I’m not sure how I feel about it. On the one hand I love kicking the soccer ball around with Primo and we’ve gotten plenty of chances to knock it around. But I wonder if his excitement to play soccer has more to do with my love of soccer than his own. I think him seeing me watch soccer and talk about soccer and volunteer for a soccer team and all around obsess about the game of soccer has him finding ways to connect with me. I want to be the dad that supports and gets excited about what ever it is that his kids love without trying to put my own tint on things but seeing Primo get so fired up to play soccer has me fired up too. He goes in and changes into green shorts and shirt so that he is on the Timbers. Segundo doesn’t care one way or the other so maybe it is a real passion for Primo and not just him projecting what I love so that I play with him.
So far in my kid’s lives they have had no shortage of play time with both Beautiful and I so I don’t think they are struggling to find ways to coax us into giving them attention. But the amount of attention that kids crave is seemingly endless so anything is possible. From my point of view I want to make sure that I continue to show my kids that I am for them and support what they are interested in whether it parallels my own interests or not. There will be time to sort our what it is they love as they grow up but for now I’m going to enjoy kicking the ball in the back yard with my boy.