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Band of SAHD has new night!

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The kids of Band of SAHD want you to listen to their daddies!

Starting tonight at 11 PM eastern, 8 PM pacific the Band of SAHD podcast will be on Wednesday nights instead of Sunday. We are excited to be moving to a new night and hope that more people will be able to tune in with us live. A big part of the show is the banter that goes on in the live chat room and we are looking forward to those continuing conversations. Tonight we will be talking about technology and kids, thoughts on the book Unconditional parenting, and a little on the start of the NBA season I’m sure. Tune in if you can, chime in on the chat or by calling in, and if nothing else download the show to listen on your own.

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I always feel like some one is watching me

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There are a couple of families on our street and a whole lot of kids so often the boys are out playing with their friends through out the day. There are a couple younger kids not in school yet and then a whole bunch that come home after school changing the dynamic of playtime. When the older kids are out the boys move farther away from the house but when the younger kids are here during the morning they stay within two houses. I am often out on the porch listening to them play but I do not have eye contact with them at all times and this bothers some.

Just this past weekend on the Band of SAHD podcast we talked about time spent on twitter was time not spent watching your kids. While I agree there is a danger in spending so much time on line that we neglect real life, I also know that the 1o seconds it took to send that tweet did not put your kids in any more or less harm. The commenter admitted to being a helicopter parent, always hovering, and that is not me. I am aware of the neighborhood, know the people that live on the street, and know where the boys are but I don’t maintain eye contact all the time. Part of that is intentional, giving the kids room to explore their environment on their own, and part of it is just my natural temperament. My kids fall down, eat dirt, and jump from ledges too high to be safe. There is danger still in there world because I think that is important. Not only can’t I protect them from everything, I really have no desire to. I want to protect them from big things, like other people and traffic, while allowing them to work out the smaller dangers themselves.

I want to make it clear that I do not think this makes me a better parent but I am also not a bad parent. I may be a little lazy in my parenting but it is an intentional laziness. I have thought a lot about how and why we do things when it comes to raising our boys and I am fine with people who have come to different conclusions. It just bothers me when those different conclusion lead people to believe I am a bad parent.

Part of the Fatherhood Friday group of blogging Fathers and Mothers over at Dad Blogs. Please click on the image to the left to find more great writing from other bloggers trying to make sense of this whole parenting thing

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Football season is fast approaching

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In honor of the coming football season and this Sunday night’s Band of SAHD podcast with Raiders fan JR Reed I thought I would pull up two old posts from my previous blog. The first one is a discussion with with my wife when she told me I was dating the Raiders but married to the Lakers, the second is my break up letter to the Raiders.

Married vs. Dating from January 8, 2008

On our way home from a very nice holiday party the subject of Football came up. We are in the heat of the playoffs and I lamented the fact that my Raiders were no longer prominently involved. Lately when I bring up the Raiders, and it’s not that often, Beautiful tells me she doesn’t believe me. She doesn’t believe I am a fan of the Raiders or even a Football fan in general.

How dare she! She must have had too much to drink at the party, why am I letting her drive in this condition? I asked her to pull over right away so I could issue a sobriety test, but she called me an idiot and reminded me that she is 8 months pregnant and hasn’t even had a sip tonight.

I thought it would pass but apparently Beautiful feels strongly about this subject. She said I just like saying I’m a Raiders fan for the reaction. She said I care more about story then games and being a Raider Fan is just a convenient vehicle for telling stories. She is really making me angry at this point but she is far from done.

She said there is no question I love the Lakers or the Dodgers because I talk about them a lot. She repeated a lot while making an exaggerated head nod for dramatic effect. The only time she hears me talk about the Raiders is when other people ask if I’m a fan of the Colts. I still think she is drunk at this point but it can also just be the rampant hormones in her body from the pregnancy, either way she is out of her mind. She is wading into dangerous water and I am not sure she can see the shore anymore.

She badgered me to admit she was right, but I will never do it. She is dead wrong. Hitting her stride she offered as evidence the Kobe trade talks with the Lakers against the Randy Moss draft day trade. Kobe didn’t even get traded and I talked about it every day for two months. She only heard that Moss was a Raider from an NFL broadcast. Please, you can’t compare Kobe to Moss, that is just crazy.

She said I am married to the Lakers, I am married to the Dodgers, but I am just friends with the Raiders. She said I’m not even dating them, I’m not even best friends with them, they are just people that I know and might have grown up with but they’re not in my fantasy league or anything. They weren’t invited to my wedding, hell we’re not even friends on Facebook.

Even though it’s 11 at night she demands that I give her my phone so she can call my friend Kyle. He will agree with her. I wouldn’t give her the phone, Kyle would never agree with her and besides it’s midnight in Arizona. Even if he did what does that prove, no he wouldn’t agree. Kyle may hate football but he wouldn’t question my fanhood. Would he?

HE DID!

Kate chatted with him the next day on gmail and that Judas took her side! Et tu Sezo? He said my brother Mark is married to the Raiders, but James is just friends. Can they be right? They can’t be right, I mean the Raiders and I have had some good times. Sure we have had some fights over money and the chores but who hasn’t? We may not be in love anymore but I made a commitment when I was 12 and 18 bad years can’t erase the 3 good ones!

Dear Raiders from September 8, 2008

The time has come for us to part ways. It’s not you it’s me. Wait that isn’t true. It is you, not me. When we first started this relationship you were in L.A. with my beloved Lakers and Dodgers and then you moved, albeit back to where you came from, but away from me. You left L.A. for Oakland and I should have called it quits then. But then you signed Nip and I couldn’t turn my back. But now after countless 1 or 2 year coaches who have never had a chance to put their stamp on the team, and getting rid of the one coach that was any good, it’s just too much. I’m breaking up with you for good. I have found another team. You had know this was going to happen when I moved to Indy. I got to go see the Colts a couple of times, you were there for a couple of those games too. The civic pride, the fan friendly owner (that is if you ignore Baltimore Fans), the lack of violence in the stands and around the stadium. I’ve moved on Raiders, I’m with the Colts now. It’s offical. I know you may think this is Sports Bigamy, once you pick a team as a kid that’s your team for life but the rules clearly state is the team leaves or the owner is terrible you can leave. I’m well with in my fan right here and I hope you don’t try to fight this. I will remember the good times; the Bo Jackson Monday night game, as well as the bad; the travesty in New England with M*$%^#F@#%$#% tuck rule. Let’s keep our memories and say good bye.

Part of the Fatherhood Friday group of blogging Fathers and Mothers over at Dad Blogs. Please click on the image to the left to find more great writing from other bloggers trying to make sense of this whole parenting thing

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Father’s Day is Coming

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I have been wanting to sit down and write a review of the Evolution of Dad documentary by Dana Glazer but I haven’t had a chance to yet. Let me just say this, I have watched it twice now and have really really enjoyed it. I watched by myself first and then with Beautiful and we both loved this movie. Check out the Father’s day e-card below and if you need something for that dad in your life I would suggest getting this movie and watching it with them. Really that time spent is the best gift you can give and this will be a movie that you will both enjoy. Also tune in Sunday night to Band of SAHD as we interview Dana Glazer on our podcast. You can listen live at 8 PM Pacific (11 PM Eastern) or download the podcast to listen at you leisure. If you would like to ask a question you can all in or chat with us live, or leave the question in the comments below.

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Band of SAHD Podcast Live Sunday Night

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The funny thing about having a blog is that there are some days when you have to follow up a post from the day before that is beautiful and stirring and you know right from the start this days post is not going to be that way. They can’t all be winners or move you at heart level, sometimes you just need to say a thing or two. Today I want to tell everyone about our first Podcast with the Band of Stay At Home Dad crew. We have had two practice runs and while we are still finding our voice individually and as a group, it is starting to come together. The idea to get together and talk about beings at home dad,s and whatever else we could come up with, originated with Chris over at SAHD In Lansing. I had an email asking me and a couple other guys if we wanted to get together and record a podcast and my mind immediately went back to dreams of hosting a late night radio show where I played great music that no one had heard of yet. Even though my wife says I sound like a drunk chipmunk when she hears my voice recorded I jumped at the chance to work with these guys. Edgar at Ed @ Home Dad was that late night radio guy and is the experienced one of the group. We have a fourth host that may or may not be joining us as time and a new baby permits but for right now the three of us from Pennsylvania, Michigan, and Oregon will be getting together each Sunday night at 11 PM Eastern, 8 Pacific. We will post the topics before each show and a number to call in and join the conversation. We will also have a chat going for each show to make fun of us as we talk. Again the first show is this Sunday May 30 and we would love to have everyone listening in and contributing to the conversation. We will be talking about who we are and how we became at home dads, discussing more World Cup Soccer and the Fantasy Game for Charity. We barely know what we are doing but we are excited and hopefully our effort will turn into some kind of achievement.

Part of the Fatherhood Friday group of blogging Fathers and Mothers over at Dad Blogs. Please click on the image to the left to find more great writing from other bloggers trying to make sense of this whole parenting thing

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Coming to a podcast near you

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In May I am going to be joining with three other great Stay At Home Dads and fantastic daddy bloggers to talk about parenting from the point of view of the dudes. An idea from @tessasdad,who blogs over at SAHDINLANSING and who is a great example of an involved and engaged dad and has been an encouragement to me, the podcast will be four guys who have gone against the cultural norm and stayed home with their kids. Joining Tessasdad and me will be @wrath66, who’s new blog Wrath66 details the process of getting ready for Baby Grrrrl, and @edathomedad who blogs over at EdAtHomeDad about raising his daughter. We have kids at different ages, Wrath66′s kid isn’t even here yet, and have North, West, East, and Mid-West covered so the perspective will be different for each of us. More information to come but be on the look out for the podcast coming to Sunday in May near you.

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